My son and his wife have a three year old daughter and she's the cutest thing we've ever seen, unfortunately, she's a holy terror. They keep a phone stuck in her face all the time playing some cartoon and she simply will not mind. We are not allowed to punish her if she disobeys when we keep her and it's put a strain on our relationship. She simply does whatever she wants, when she wants because that's how she "expresses herself." As a grandparent, when do I put my foot down, or do I?
Dear Spoiler Alert,
I remember thinking to myself as a younger man, “if my kid ever acts like that I’m going to knock the taste out of their mouth”, then I had kids... I’m not saying they’ve never been disciplined because trust me, I’ve used all the tools—belts, switches, backhands and all sorts of tough love, but even then I’m sure there are times others say the same things in their heads that I did. The fact I try is more than most these days.
Did you know that the Apple company, best known for computing and communication, is also the largest babysitting company in the world? I credit their success in the babysitting business to the fact mom & dad are too busy with a phone in their face to actually raise a kid so they shove an iPad in the kid’s face to babysit. What a perfect business plan, perpetual demand and consumer training beginning with newborns.
The truth is, you could try to step in and let them know their kid is a wild hyena but it’s probably a waste of breath. It sounds like you disciplined your child and that's why you're now noticing so much--remind your son of this. Also, maybe if you text them they’ll at least ‘hear’ you.
I run a small business here in the county and I try to shop local as much as I can. Also, living in Edmonson County I know everybody and they know me. I have a couple friends that run businesses here but honestly, some of the places in Bowling Green and Leitchfield do better at it than they do and offer better prices. Am I supposed to pay higher prices or get less of a product simply because they expect me to buy from them?
Dear Locally Owned and Broke,
Capitalism is one of my favorite things to talk about, not the letters but the economic system. The beauty of it, in theory at least, is ithat it rewards those that work the hardest while motivating all to work harder-- meanwhile making goods and services more affordable across the board. Capitalism tries to make everyone winners unlike socialism that tries to bring everyone down to the loser’s level.
I try my best to support local businesses as often as I can to a certain degree. I don’t mind paying for convenience but I assign the amount I’m willing to pay for the convenience within myself.
Humility and appreciation go hand in hand, if a business, local or not, appreciates my patronage, I will reward them by continuing to patron them. If I stop doing business because I’m not being appreciated others will most likely follow suit. Said business will either learn humility and change or run off all the customers and cease to exist.
“So Mongoose you’re saying teach them a lesson and don’t do business?”, No, I’m saying let capitalism work.
Decide for yourself how much more you’re willing to pay, how much less service you’re willing to receive, how much you are willing to be belittled and make your own decisions. Once a business decides it’s owed your business, we as consumers lose the advantages, addressed in the first paragraph, capitalism has afforded us.
On a side note, “shop local” does benefit the community, no question there, but think of this, the big chains stores also benefit the community by employing a larger number of community members and offering goods cheaper due to volume buying etc..
As much as I hate The Walmarts and don’t shop there, they are the largest employer in the U.S. and looking at “The People of Walmart” website is pretty dang funny.
My sister and her family live really close to me here in EC and our families used to gather all the time. Over the past few years, she's started hoarding stuff and her house has become a disaster. We miss hanging out with her family but it's awful going over there because of the horrible mess and we stopped visiting. Do we say something?
Dear Madame De Clutter,
When they say house guests are like fish maybe this is what they were referring to, nothing personal against your sister. According to the show “Hoarders”, it’s not just bad cleaning habits that cause this type of behavior, it’s somewhat of a mental disorder or compensation for a void somewhere within the psyche of that person.
I would approach it no different than if your sister were on drugs or addicted to buying scratch offs at the Hot Spot. Let her know you love her and miss her and bring in the professionals if that doesn’t work. I’m talking about the mental pros, not clean-up pros—that comes later.
Mental illness is a real thing, I often wonder if the larger percentage of the population suffering is due to increased awareness or society has become so toxic more are affected. Whatever the answer might be, I'm convinced Facebook has something to do with it.
I just turned 18, am I going to get drafted?
Dear Birthday Person,
Contrary to what you’ve seen on the internet, a draft does not currently exist in the United States at this time. In order for the draft to be reconstituted, it would have to be passed by Congress. Thankfully, our military is comprised of all volunteers, I shudder to think of what might happen if we had to drag 18-25 year-olds kicking and screaming from their parent’s basements crying for a safe space. My advice to you is quit playing Fortnite, stay off Twitter & FakeBook, and get your news from www.edmonsonvoice.com.
I try my best to stay out of politics as much as possible but after our last Governal or Governmental, however you say it election I feel like I need to become a little more involved. It seemed like every time I turned the TV on the other guy was saying Matt Blevin hated teachers and Blevin was saying the other guy was a communist. Does Blevin hate teachers and is the governor we have now a communist? Because if both are true neither one of them deserve to be governor.
Dear, I Believe the Words You’re Looking for are Gubernatorial and Bevin,
Edgar Allan Poe once said, “Believe nothing you hear and only one half of what you see”, the scary thing is he said it way before the internet and TV. When you’re talking politics, don’t believe ANYTHING you hear/see the one guy say about the other.
Let me give you my opinion on Blevin, I mean Bevin and his teacher hating. Bevin, from what I could gather, was completely missing the tact gene, add that into the fact that he grew up a Yankee and its easy to see why it would look as though he hated teachers after hearing him address the “pension apocalypse”. I personally think his intentions were good, the pension situation had to be dealt with at some point and was destined to run out of money (and still is) in its current state.
With this pension mess--well, if you have more money going out than you have coming in you will run out of money—its that simple. To make a long story short neither side was willing to compromise in a way that suited the opposite side and that with the lack of tact, demonstrated in comments made by Blevin, led folks to believe he hates teachers. Which, hey, he might actually hate teachers, I wasn’t all too fond of them in school myself.
Is Beshear a commie?
Short answer; he’s a Democrat. The Democrat platform continues to veer left as is evident in front running Presidential candidates such as Elizabeth Warren and Bernie Sanders. The further left you lean on the political spectrum the closer you get to being designated an actual communist meaning; according to Karl Marx includes all property being publicly owned and the elimination of private poverty.
Beshear is not a communist, he’s just a democrat who is pro-abortion, pro-union, pro-gambling, pro-marijuana, pro-gay rights, pro-taxes.
My wife and I have been married for 7 years and are in our late 20s....yes, we got married early, but we're very happy. We have no children (yet) and reserve the right to keep the reason for that to ourselves. But, people all the time ask us "when are you guys going to have a baby?" or "what are you waiting for?" At first it didn't bother us but now it's just rude and annoying. How do we tell people to knock it off without knocking off their heads?
Dear Married Without Children,
Seven years of marriage, that’s like 30 years in today’s time compared to 50 years ago, congratulations!
I don’t know if you’ve noticed but I recommend dealing with certain situations with a little humor. I have a few comebacks you might try: The first one would be "That's not of your stinkin' business, you rude, nosey, piece of..." or, you could go the lighter side:
“We are waiting to have children till we get enough Kroger Plus points to pay for diapers, we only need about 1,370,000 more”
“We had a couple kids a few years ago but they kept crying, I think they were defective so we sent them back”
“My wife/husband has very strong genes, have you seen him/her? I don’t want a kid that looks like that!”
“We were going to have kids until we saw how yours turned out, scared us to death”
You get the idea.
I have a 7th grade son who wanted to go to the 8th dance...Not as a date with someone in the 8th grade, but just by himself. Since it's called "the 8th grade dance" I didn't think that was possible, but apparently you can get an 8th grader who's either not going or going alone to purchase a ticket. I told him no. We found out over the weekend that there were about as many 7th graders there as 8th...what's up with that? has our middle school people lost their minds?
Dear Dance Mom or Dad,
Nothing like a bunch of dressed up kids standing in the corner listening to music, staring at an empty dance floor. At least that’s how it was when I was in school.
First of all, good for you telling your kid “no”. NO is the most underused word in a parent’s vocabulary these days. The problem with giving your kids everything they want is that they expect the rest of the world to do the same. This is why there are more people in jail today than live in Dallas TX (google it). If I had to guess, these 7th graders didn’t even have to ask twice before Mommy or Daddy moved heaven and earth to make sure little Susie doesn’t have to wait a whole year to stare at an empty dance floor.
I don’t blame the kids, I bet you a dollar and a donut little Susie had every Barbie she ever asked for and some she didn’t, and when she turns 16, will have a car nicer than a hedge fund manager’s.
Good ol' mom & dad loving their kids to death and Mr. & Mrs. Teacher scared to death to tell parents no, that’s who I blame.
Get a pencil and paper, write this down: one or more of this group of kids, (this group being the group that can do no wrong, always gets whatever they want and get treated like they are about 10 years older than they actually are), will end up in jail, rehab, or parenthood before the age of 18.
Parents, you were told no and survived. We all want our kids to have it better than we did but at what cost? I’ll take calluses over blisters any day.
My wife gets so mad at me every time I pass up one of these panhandlers on the street in Bowling Green. She says it's our duty to help someone in need, and I agree...BUT normally there's a help wanted sign across the street from where these people are begging. Am I supposed to help someone that won't help themselves?
Dear Hands Out Don’t Shoot,
My wife gets mad at me when I use her panhandlers while I’m welding so I feel your pain.
The following is a true story:
Not more than two weeks ago I was coming home from working around 8:00 pm and got stopped at a light in Bowling Green. It was a nice evening, I had my windows down and here comes Mr. Face Tattoo Cowboy Hat-wearing guy, holding a sign that read, “broke and hungry”. Ol' Tat Face walks right up to my window and holds his sign up to me. I had left my house before 6 am that morning and hadn’t eaten since breakfast and was just headed home after a 14-hour day. I saw the sign, he saw that I saw the sign, I said “me too brother”. He laughed and asked if I had any spare change, I then asked him how much his face tats cost—he walked back to the next car without saying another word to me.
Oh yeah, funny story, so? Some people have bad luck, can’t help it, need a break. Some spend their money on cowboy hats and face tats then wonder why they’re broke and can’t get a job. You'll often see these folks that also have expensive dogs, guitars, and other non-essential items. You can't eat a guitar or dog,--well, I guess you could, but anyway--You see where I'm going with this...
I trust my gut, if they look like they need it and didn’t put themselves in that situation, I’ll give them what I can. If they look like they have no one to blame but themselves and their bad decisions—I drive on past .
Pro tip: if you want a job somewhere other than a tattoo parlor don’t get tattoos on your face.
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