My son and his wife have a three year old daughter and she's the cutest thing we've ever seen, unfortunately, she's a holy terror. They keep a phone stuck in her face all the time playing some cartoon and she simply will not mind. We are not allowed to punish her if she disobeys when we keep her and it's put a strain on our relationship. She simply does whatever she wants, when she wants because that's how she "expresses herself." As a grandparent, when do I put my foot down, or do I?
Dear Spoiler Alert,
I remember thinking to myself as a younger man, “if my kid ever acts like that I’m going to knock the taste out of their mouth”, then I had kids... I’m not saying they’ve never been disciplined because trust me, I’ve used all the tools—belts, switches, backhands and all sorts of tough love, but even then I’m sure there are times others say the same things in their heads that I did. The fact I try is more than most these days.
Did you know that the Apple company, best known for computing and communication, is also the largest babysitting company in the world? I credit their success in the babysitting business to the fact mom & dad are too busy with a phone in their face to actually raise a kid so they shove an iPad in the kid’s face to babysit. What a perfect business plan, perpetual demand and consumer training beginning with newborns.
The truth is, you could try to step in and let them know their kid is a wild hyena but it’s probably a waste of breath. It sounds like you disciplined your child and that's why you're now noticing so much--remind your son of this. Also, maybe if you text them they’ll at least ‘hear’ you.
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