As the year comes to an end I just want to say that I love living in Edmonson County and enjoy reading your responses. I don't really have a question but I want to encourage your fans to pay attention to our local businesses that are contributing back to our local community--and the ones that are NOT. Look at our school programs, our volunteer organizations, our charities, and benefits, and pay attention to who sponsors them. We have a ton of great businesses that continually invest their own money back into Edmonson County schools and programs. We also have businesses that have been here for years that never support anything except their own pockets. I'm not calling anyone out, I'm just urging people to pay attention. We need to support those that support others, and stay away from the ones that don't. Have you ever noticed this?
Dear Community Reinvestment Act-ers,
I once had someone in sales tell me, “if a customer is happy, he/she might tell 3-4 people; if a customer is unhappy, they’ll tell everyone they know and even some they don’t”. I see where you are coming from and personally I haven’t given the subject much thought as it pertains to my personal business done in county. I think the reason relates to my opening comment.
Unfortunately most, myself included, don’t recognize the good because we’ve come to expect it and “good” is only “mediocre” now.
That being said I’m with you. We live in a world where there are a lot of hands out and in turn hand outs (read closely). There are two groups, we’ll say one group, the hands out group is over here on the left, and expect the other group, this group here on the right, to provide them with whatever they deem is needed. Now don’t confuse me, I’m not saying the charities, schools, etc.. are on the left side with arms out and palms up, just bear with me... So in the beginning the left side says, “hey, you have plenty,I need some, can I have some?”, the right side says, “you know I do have plenty, I’d be glad to help you”. Hey, the left side gets what they need and the right side feels good because they were able to help someone, a win-win.
Fast forward, the left side that once only asked for help when they needed it now expects the other side to give them not only needs but wants and has gone from asking to demanding. Meanwhile the right side lost the feel good received by helping and became indignant after seeing their once gifts now hand outs squandered.
Back home now, the schools, charities, sick individuals and so forth DO NOT equate to the group on the left in my example nor do the hander-outers equal the right group.
However, our view, the great citizens of this county, has been conditioned in such a way that we either 1) expect those on the right hand side to give, 2) are reluctant to give because the other side feels entitled, and to answer your question (10 pages later) C) all sides don’t see the good guys giving and reward them or see the ones that don’t because we’ve been conditioned to expect it.
Bottom line, you can blame most of society’s ills on the tenants of socialism, the antithesis of freedom, morals, risk/reward —the list goes on and on.
Dear Mister Mongoose,
I have been in an ongoing relationship for just about 4 years now. I frequently use his phone, because i mean we are a couple. So yesterday i got on his phone to download an app, and i seen that in his recently used apps was Tinder. I was immediately upset, and began to cry. He asked if i was alright, and i told him i was fine, and gave him a fake excuse despite the fact that i was on to him. He had never cheated on me before, so i wasn't really sure why he would now. Was he bored of me? Is he not happy with me? I mean i wasn't absolutely sure if he even was, so i got on the app, and it was logged out, so i put in his phone number and it popped up his account. I went to his profile, and in his bio it didn't say anything about being in a relationship at the moment or anything, so i was really worried. I went through his messages and he hadn't flirted with any of them, and he had mentioned to them that he had a girlfriend and that he had no intentions of anything, but it was the fact that he was still talking to girls, and not even telling me about them. So just friends or not, he was still guilty. I was super glad to find out that he told them that he was in a relationship, and that he didn't want anything more than a friend, but like i mentioned before, he still didn't tell me. I don't really know how to talk to him about it, or to give him time to maybe tell me about it. What do i do????
Sincerely, The Concerned Girlfriend
Dear Tinder Hearted,
Let me throw down an analogy for you.
You go to Bass Pro and buy $3,000 worth of fishing tackle and a new $69,000 Ranger bass boat. You hook up and back it down the boat ramp-- almost to the water. The game warden stops you and asks to see your fishing license. What will he think when you tell him, “I’m not going fishing, I’m just sitting here in my truck with everything a person needs to fish but I’m not fishing”.
The gear/boat = the phone app
Hooking up driving to the water = his profile
Hey, if he ain’t fishing--I mean cheating-- he’s missing a dang good chance.
Can you explain to me why our county has a Christmas parade on Thanksgiving weekend? I had a family meal planned for that saturday and probably a bunch of other people did too. First they switched halloween and now we're doing Christmas on Thanksgiving. That's messed up plus, where did they get that Santa. was that Slug?
Dear Holiday Heckler,
I'll start off with a similar reply I've given to countless emails...why are you asking me? I have no control over these things. First, you should be made aware that our Lions Club (all volunteers) organize and oversee the Christmas parade, not "the county." Second, the Christmas parade and the Halloween on the Square are volunteer-coordinated events. They are a "treat" if you will. The county (which puts on the Halloween event) doesn't have to do anything for the event, but our local Parks and Rec team and our Judge Executive's office do...FOR FREE. Same as our Lions Club.
I've been told that the date of the Christmas parade was changed a couple years back because most other local parades are held on the first and second weekends in December, and many of the parade participants want to attend multiple local parades. I didn't attend this year's parade in person; however, I watched the live stream on the Edmonson Voice. Last I checked, the video had about 4K views and it looked like there were people all over the place--so the date must be good for most. Is the Lions Club supposed to call everyone in Edmonson County and ask them what date works out best for them for a parade or trick-or-treating?
What I've found out about our little county is that people are quick to complain and judge others, especially when it comes to volunteering. Don't like it? Don't complain to me or Facebook...volunteer for Parks and Rec and put in some time. Join the Lions Club and actually contribute. The only way positive changes are made is if you have positive people willing to do positive things...not complain only. I look at it like this: If they have the Christmas parade in March, at least someone is willing to volunteer their time to put it on. Around here, the ones that complain the most, contribute the least.
And as for Santa? He came from the North Pole. Duh.
My neighbor's dogs keep getting out and making a mess at our house. They're two very friendly and cute dogs but they chew up our kids' toys and they've been getting into our trash. We've respectfully and kindly told our neighbors about the ongoing issue that happens about twice a week and all they say is "we're sorry about that." I'm tired of replacing toys and picking up trash but I want to be a friendly neighbor. Now what?
Dear DogGone Neighbors,
The answer I’d love to give you starts with a .2 and ends with a 2 with nothing in between, but let’s not go there,I don’t want PETA after me.
You’ve been ‘kindly and friendly’ and apparently that didn’t work. If you’d like to continue to be kindly and friendly, keep your trash and toys up and out of dogs' reach and forget it. If you want to be really kind and friendly, offer to buy them an invisible dog fence.
Now, if you’re past the kindly/friendly stage, see sentence one or it might be time to flush your car’s coolant. I’m kidding PETA, kidding!
I got behind a tractor pulling a big piece of equipment the other day on 259. The tractor could have pulled in the emergency lane at any time but instead, they chose to drive 20 mph for about 4 miles and backed up traffic for about 17 cars. I know farmers have to get from one place to another but aint there some etiquette in there somewhere?
Dear Getting Nowhere Fast,
Tractors, garbage trucks , funeral processions. These are the top three worst things to get behind on the road. Could be worse, you might be in the lead car of the funeral procession. I’ve actually had this question before and may have been the guy you were behind. Anyway, keep these things in mind when behind farm equipment: if said piece is taking up two lanes of the road, chances are there is not room on the roadside for said piece to get out of your way. Tractor tires can cost as much as $3,000 each; a broken signpost or road tile in the ditch could cost $6,000 (front and back tires) if run over-- likely causing the driver to be apprehensive about pulling off into a 3’ ditch.
As much as farmers have to do these days, they want to get to where they are going just as fast as you do. Just remember where food comes from the next time you’re behind one and practice patience because it could always be worse. You could live where there are twelve lanes of traffic jammed up for 27 miles, three times everyday.
What is your take on this whole Trump--Kim Jong Uno (or whatever his name is). Is this a good or bad thing?
Dear Korean Card Game,
This much is true, half the country thinks he’s doing the right thing and half the country thinks he’s an idiot. I fall somewhere in the middle. However I will say this, we’ve not been attacked by North Korea yet-- that I’ve heard-- so he’s got that going for him. Honestly, we as common folk, won’t know if Kimmy sticks to it and denuclearizes for a couple of years. In the meantime, half the country will say Trump is Satan because he drinks Diet Coke and the other half will swear it cures cancer. Me, I’ll stick with tea and be at peace knowing everything gives you cancer.
Thank goodness the first part of this election is over. I never thought I see such nasty stuff come out of our own little county. Where the heck did all this come from?
Dear Mud Bog Hater,
There was enough mud slung this year to supply Purnell and Williams Sausage’s hogs for the next 10 years. I can’t say much, boys I used to sling em. But as Momma always said, “if you don’t have anything good to say, don’t say anything”, so I stopped with the name calling, bad mouthing and all-around nasty talk.
I love this county, born and raised here, but there is one thing I can’t stand. EC is notorious for putting others down. I have a theory: EC is the butt of many jokes, ’poor, backward, rednecks’ according to everyone else. Instead of lifting ourselves up most people here tear everyone else down as to elevate their status and make themselves look better. Call it insecurity, low self-esteem whatever you wish but it’s poison. Just like the bully in school, when you stand up to them they generally back off.
My mindset is this; rising tides lift ALL boats, so instead of slinging donuts, build yourself up so you outshine the competition and let everyone else who are still stuck in two wheel drive (slinging away), worry about themselves. They won't get too far.
I saw where two people were arrested for dealing drugs down at the baptizing place the other day but I never saw where the church people are raising heck over it. How come they got all tore up when there was a music video with a positive message shot down there but they don't say anything when drugs are down there?
Dear I Baptize This My Reader:
Somewhere along the lines of this discussion, the silly notion has been passed around that somehow the people that own and/or use the baptizing facility for religious purposes turn a blind eye to the illegal or inappropriate actions that sometimes happen on the property, and that's simply not true.
The biggest difference in the two examples you've given are: the video was done very publicly and blatantly. The church members and property members were very much made aware that something was taking place at the property that according to the owners, was not supposed to take place. Whether you liked the music video or not, or no matter your opinion about the property, we very plainly learned through that process that the property was indeed private and that the owners have a right to say what happens there. When someone goes there to deal drugs, have secret hook-ups, or to fish, or anything else for that matter, it's usually kept quiet. No one calls the owners or the churches and lets them know that illegal activities are about to take place. If they did, you can bet your fishing poles that there would be all sort of heck raised.
Should churches police the property? Maybe, but most of them are probably at work. I predict this situation will cause the property owners to adjust how they oversee the property. It's obvious that the property owners didn't want a video shot there, but what's been overlooked is that they also don't want drugs there, hookups, fishing, swimming, nor anything else that's not a religious ceremony. The majority of them are just not the type of folks that jump up and run to Facebook every time they disagree with something, so you don't hear about them being upset.
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